Helping your child settle into a nursery can be challenging. The first days can be tough for both you and your child, especially if it's the first time you're leaving them in someone else's care when you return to work. To support your child's transition, it's essential to acknowledge and manage your feelings of separation.
Here are some key points to remember:
• Create a consistent drop-off routine to help children feel secure.
• Say a cheerful goodbye and reassure your child that you will be back soon to help boost their
• Use reassuring language and gestures to instill confidence in your child.
• Be honest with your child about your return time, rather than making false promises.
Children who are starting nursery may display various reactions such as excitement, sleep problems, refusal to eat, regression in habits, or seeking comfort items. These behaviours tend to resolve as the child becomes more comfortable participating in group activities and enjoying their time at the nursery. The settling-in period may take from 2 days up to a few months.
Ensuring trust is key for a smooth nursery transition. Show trust in the nursery by asking questions and checking the quality of care. Your optimism can greatly influence your child's adjustment. Share positive thoughts about the nursery, highlight the enjoyable activities and new friends they can find, and reassure them about your return.
Help your child adjust by gradually introducing them through short visits to understand you'll come back. Share your child's preferences, routines, and relevant details with the educators for a smoother transition. Offer a familiar item from home for comfort. Take time to say goodbye positively to reassure your child. Remember, the educators support and care for your child, but you're irreplaceable as a parent. Feeling guilty or anxious is normal; with planning and help, both of you can navigate this phase. Embrace the settling-in process, confident it will benefit your child's growth.”
Written by May Zalat, Head of Education and Inclusion at Babilou Nursery
